Recently, a co-worker has started to be just a little annoying regarding my wardrobe choices. I work in a state agency law office, so I have to be a little conservative, but, because we work for the state, I am not required to don the horrid pinstripes that I would in a traditional law office. However, I do tend towards black clothes. Now, this is not because I am worried about how skinny and/or large I look, nor is it because I have no clothing imagination. It is because black is 1) easy, and 2) a great canvas for my accessories, namely my shoes. I have always loved the fact that on those mornings when I am running late, and it is everything I can do to drag myself out of bed, I can pull on a pair of wide-leg black pants, a black t-shirt, red and black snakeskin pumps, a simple black watch and a beautiful blue necklace, and not only am I fully and appropriately dressed, but I am also fashionable. I could wear (and have worn) the same exact outfit the next day with different shoes and jewelry, and no one has ever commented on it. And trust me, in my office, everyone is a critic.
When I tried to explain to my nosy coworker that not everyone could wear colors with the same abandon that she does, she very quickly got defensive and started to explain the error of my thoughts. This was soooo much like a former coworker who was MAYBE 100 pounds soaking wet and all of 5’2″, who once explained to me that absolutely everyone in the world could be as skinny as her if they just watched what they ate. When I explained to her that my wrist was not fat, and yet it was at least half again as large as her wrist, she explained that I wasn’t working out correctly. I have learned that with these people, it is better to just walk away from the conversation. There is nothing that you will EVER say or do that will convince them that they are not correct.
Let me also say – I do wear color. I have a lovely blue t-shirt that I got about 6 weeks ago that I wear constantly. It is a very rich blue with birds flying around with piano keys. I also have a lovely deep purple sweater with 3/4 sleeves that I rock all through the fall. I have shoes from every color of the rainbow. But why am I defending myself?? Even if I just wanted to wear black all day, every day for the rest of my life, it would be okay. Some people will never feel happy unless they can criticize you and then hide by saying that they are “just being honest.” Well, honestly, I don’t give a hoot (most of the time) for other people’s opinions, and neither should you. Fashion and beauty are such an incredibly personal thing, that no one’s opinion should ever sway you to change something about your look. More often that not, when someone lashes out at you, or says something mean-spirited, it is because they themselves are unhappy, and they are hoping that by making you sadder than they are, they will suddenly feel better. Anyone think that will work? Me neither. So I am going to continue to luxuriate in my black-filled closet. After all, if it was good enough for Audrey (and for the movie that most women think of as the “fashion movie,”) it is more than good enough for me!! ***
OMG!! I downloaded this app to help motivate me to run, and it is the ever-loving bomb!!!!
I don’t have a man in my life right now, but I hope the next one to come along already knows about this and follows it. That would be so Don Draper of him!
This shirt is on its way to me now. What a great message, right?
I LOVE the bathing suit and the shoes.
This has been my anthem for the past few days.
This is the greatest smelling candle in the world. Other than my mint one.
More steps to help me with my running.
If I ever have to live in a smaller apartment for some reason, I am so doing this.
I love the bohemian quality of this wedding dress. Next time!!!
My new favorite fashion blog.
It is peach season here in Texas, so I need to find out what to do with this bounty.
I apologize if I have already posted this, but this is the coolest roommate post EVER.
Pepsi is never okay.
Thirsty Thursdays are going to be a thing for me, I can tell.
Yes, I will eat this, thanks!
I’m not going full vegetarian, but I am going to try cutting out chicken, beef and sausage for a while. This will be very helpful.
**I would just like to point something out too. Anyone ever notice how the not-so-nice sugar mama in the Breakfast at Tiffany’s is always drenched in color compared to Holly?? I don’t think that was an accident.